The 4 Agreements -Don Miguel Ruiz
Updated: Sep 24, 2019
Be Impeccable With Your Word:
How often do we use the word against ourselves or against other people? We do this daily when we criticize ourselves, our appearance, point out our mistakes, our character flaws and all of the other things that make us "not perfect". We strive to be perfect but end up reminding ourselves of all the things that are wrong with that make us imperfect.
We do this when we use our word against another person. We pass judgement and criticize the appearance of another, mistakes that he may have made and determine if he is "good enough".
When we become impeccable with our word we stop the judge from taking over and can begin to focus on the joy that we are meant to experience in life.
Don't Make Assumptions:
We create so much unnecessary dram in our own lives by making assumptions. We assume we know what others are thinking, what they are feeling and instead of asking for clarity we allow those assumptions to consume our thoughts. Instead of asking what one is referring to, we allow our ego to make everything about "me" and this controls how we act and react towards others.
Don't Take Anything Personally:
We humans believe that everything everyone does is "all about me". If someone looks at me the wrong way I automatically know that this person is judging me, comparing me, criticizing me. If my coworker is in a bad mood, I know it is my fault; that I made her upset in some way. Our ego wants us to take everything personally, to stay stuck in this negative downward spiral and feel miserable. The truth is that nothing anyone does or says is about "me"; EVER. It is always about him/her. Nothing I do or say can "make" a person do or say anything or act a certain way. The fact is that people react based on their own assumptions and inability to be impeccable with their word.
Always Do Your Best:
No matter what life throws your way, always do your best. Your best will change from day to day, minute by minute. Some days your best will be outstanding and others your best will be so-so. But every day show up and do your best and then your word will be impeccable for how can we expect anything but "our best" from ourselves?